Why do you love your spouse?

 

Does this question lead you to searching your mind for a list? Do you to feel like you have to say the right thing or find an answer that's good enough? Do you have to defend your marriage to your family or friends who disapprove? Do you ever find yourself asking this question of yourself?

The interpretation of this question is: What are the conditions that you've put on your love?

When you come up with the list, ask yourself what happens in those moments when those attributes disappear. How do you feel when your lover barely has time for you because they're a workaholic? When the gifts stop coming what happens, then? What about when you disagree? Are these times when you look to God for strength? Do you choose to continue loving?

Love is your choice. You don't have to grow apart. You don't have to stop having fun. You don't have to condemn your spouse and punish them when things don't go your way. These are all choices that we make on a daily basis. Every marriage has it's ups and downs. That's a fact of life but every marriage doesn't fall apart because of them. We all hear the statistics about marriage. About 50% of marriages fail. That also means that about 50% of marriages succeed. Where will your marriage fall in those statistics?  If you don't know, I'll give you a hint: It's up to you!

You choose whether your marriage fails or succeeds. Yes, I know it takes two to make a marriage work. I also know that it only takes one to change the atmosphere in the marriage. The choices you have made up until today do not matter because you can not change them. You can make a new choice. You can choose passion, commitment, joy, adventure and sensuality for your marriage. You can choose love!

 ⁴Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. ⁵ It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. ⁶ Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. ⁷ It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

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